Why to Stop Using the Fake Geek Girl Meme
by Haylee Fisher (@haylee_fisher)
I went to see a movie with a friend a couple of weeks ago (Warm Bodies – I recommend it!) and in the car, she brought up the “Fake Geek Girl” meme. She had only recently heard of it and was furious about it. To give you a little background, she and I both consider ourselves nerds. She is more of a gamer and comic nerd and I’m more of a TV and movie nerd. Together, we would make one heck of a trivia team. And you know what? It’s OKAY to be a nerd about different things and to have passions different than what the general population thinks you should.
This is why the “Fake Geek Girl” meme continues to be a thing – because people think that just because you’re a girl, that you don’t know anything about the subject you are talking about. And it’s not just trolls on the Internet. Comic book writers like Dirk Manning and Tony Harris have posted controversial statements online, both essentially saying girls can’t be geeks and any who say they are just do it for male attention.
News flash! Not everything a woman does is for male attention. Women can genuinely enjoy geeky things. There is no need to get territorial about said geeky things. Instead of pre-judging her, strike up a conversation with her. I bet you’ll be surprised how much she legitimately knows about a particular geeky topic.
Even if she’s not an expert in the field, maybe she’s new to the fandom and just learning the ins and outs. Don’t quiz her as if her life depended on it; instead, welcome her to the fandom and help her to learn more. Recommend other things you think she might like as well.
Because who are you to say if someone really is a fan of something or not? That’s what’s great about The Nerd Machine community – everyone seems to accept a person for who they are and for what they are passionate about. In fact, site co-founder Zachary Levi tweeted his definition of a nerd as being, “One whose unbridled passion for something, or things defines who they are as a person, without fear of other people’s judgment.” Let’s follow his lead and help the “Fake Geek Girl” meme die once and for all.